The cafe that gives you a platform to share your personal emotional journey through menopause and assures that you are not alone.
It was the kind of family argument that happens in households up and down the country. Sarah Williams’ son was going out and she wanted to know where he was going. It was a simple request, so why was he getting so furious?
“Mum this is the second time you’ve asked me,” he asked exasperatedly. “Are you not paying attention to what I am saying ?”
“I started to think that maybe I was,” Sarah says. “I thought maybe this was early onset dementia.”
Sarah is not the only one who experiences this, most of the women in their late 40s get this experience because of perimenopause. The so called ‘third stage of life’. It is difficult for them to to go through this phase alone as it challenges them mentally and emotionally.
Sarah Williams, the organiser of the menopause cafe in Cardiff said, “In early 2017, I was 46 and was having treatment called chemical menopause for perimenopausal disorder.
“My mother passed away just before this incidence so I never really got the chance to know much about menopause. I never even discussed this phase with my friends so that time was tough for me. I would say in the start I kind of had selfish motive to start this cafe in Cardiff.”
Sarah Williams has been organising the menopause cafe since 2018 in Cardiff. Since then she has organised sixteen events, 2 in University hospital and 2 in Porthcawl. Now again arranging one in Cardiff for which you can register yourself through eventbrite.
Sarah said, “It definitely helps women not to feel alone and isolated, I still remember the first meeting when women couldn’t stop talking with tears in their eyes. I met some fantastic women through this cafe and made amazing friendship for lifetime.”
The menopause is a very natural part of ageing that usually occurs mostly between 45 and 55 years of age, as a woman’s oestrogen level starts to decline. In the UK, average age for a woman to reach the menopause is 51.
Surprisingly the highest rate of suicide among women in the UK is between the ages of 45 and 49 this is the age when most women will be experiencing perimenopause. Ignorance about menopause is fatal for everyone as it is not just the women who are struggling with it but her loved ones as well.
The first ever menopause cafe was held in Scotland in June 2017 and founded by Rachel Weiss. The cafe is open to both women and men of all ages. There are no speakers, no set agenda and no selling or promotions. People just come together to talk about their personal experience of menopause.
The main purpose of this cafe is to increase awareness of the impact of menopause on those women who are experiencing it along with impact on their family, friends and colleagues.